Identifying Anger Problems

by Dave Goetz, M.S.W.

Do You Have An Anger Problem?

The following are questions designed to help identify potential problems you may have with anger and/or control. This is not a researched scale, but it can point to serious signs of danger in intimate relationships.

• Do friends and family feel free to share their thoughts and feelings with you?
• If a stranger knew everything about your relationship with friends and family, would s/he say you get along well with them?
• Has anyone ever said s/he is afraid of you?
• Does your spouse and/or friends avoid conflict with you?
• Has someone ever received a bruise as a result of your actions during an argument?
• Have you ever broken an object (glass, chair, vase, ashtray, etc.) during or right after an argument?
• Have you ever called someone a bitch, bastard or some other derogatory name?
• Has a friend or spouse ever accused you of being angry and you felt you had to prove him or her wrong?
• Have you ever surprised yourself by how angry you got and by what you did?
• Have you ever hurt yourself punching or kicking a wall in anger?
• Have you ever been "blind" with rage, or could not remember what you did when angry?
• Would a friend or spouse say that you have ever slapped or hit him/her?
• Have you ever ripped someone's clothes when angry?
• When angry, have you shaken your fist or raised your hand toward someone?

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