The Ten Stages of The Recovery Process

1. Self-Exploration and Self-Discovery
   You will explore your past and present to discover the truth about you.
2. Relationship history / inventory
   You'll examine and perhaps reset your personal boundaries.
3. Addiction control
   You'll get a handle on your addictions and compulsions and take the first steps toward mastering them.
4. Leaving home and saying good-bye
   You'll say the goodbyes appropriate to healing. You may think you did that years ago. Probably you didn't.
5. Grieving your loss
   Grieving is both the bottom of the curve, the very pits of your emotions and feelings, and also the start upward. It's almost like your dentist hanging up his drill. You know he's no done yet, but the worst is over.
6. New self-perceptions You will gain fresh perceptions about yourself and make new decisions. What an eye-opener this stage is!
7. New experiences
   You will build a foundation of new experiences to bolster the decisions you've just made.
8. Reparenting You will rebuild your past in a sense, and also the present and future, as you become involved in what we call reparenting.
9. Relationship accountability You will establish accountability for your new and refreshed personal relationships.
10. Maintenance
    You will embark on a maintenance program that will keep you on the track for the remainder of your life.

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